Time to Get Real – Week of April 22

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I’ve decided to be happy about this week.

With all the craziness in my life of an upcoming in person job interview (if you’re wondering why I’m making such a big deal about this it’s simple.  This is a 3 day visit “interview”.  I’ll meet with several individuals plus group meetings.  It’s a big deal and something of a marathon experience) plus all the weight loss snares that come with Easter.

So when I stepped on the scale it was much better than I’d feared.  At the same time I’m not making any real progress.  So I had to make a decision about how to approach this.  I came through another week of spotty eating and inconsistent exercise.  I came through the stress issues that are only going to get worse this week.  I came through Easter.

And I actually lost a fraction of a pound.  Which puts me back at the half way point again.

That’s pretty freaking amazing.

I’d really like to start moving again though.

My resolution:

Time to name the next goal.  I like them to be reasonable and achievable for my short term goals (the long term one is at the bottom here).  So we take it five pounds at a time.  185, I’m looking at you.

Official Weigh In Weight

189.6 pounds

Weight Change this week –  -0.2 pounds

Total Weight Loss To Date –  15.0 pounds

Goal Weight and Total to Lose – 175/30

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Life Among the Unemployed April 17(18)

One of the the things that happen when you’re thinking about a new job that requires a move is you start looking at all your “stuff”.

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Specifically, you look at it and think “Do I REALLY want to pack all this crap and move it?”

So I’ve been caught up in sorting, evaluating and deciding.  Which resulted in me completely forgetting to post yesterday.  I was being productive, I promise!

We’ve actually pared down our stuff to a tremendous degree.  We only moved to our current apartment about three years.  Since we were moving from a two story, three bedroom house to a two bedroom apartment we had to make some serious decisions about what we really valued.  We’ll be making even more decisions for the next move.  In the end “stuff” isn’t what is important.  I could start over with nothing just as long as my lady wife was with me.  I could start over by myself with nothing too but it would be much harder (in so many ways!).

In the meantime I have been notified by a NEW opening that I’m a finalist for the position!  So I have three positions that I am at least technically still an active candidate for (one of which I have not heard from in over two months, sigh) and am told I’m still in the running for a fourth one.  To be honest I wish those last two would get their butts in gear.  The former just seems to have gotten stuck.  I’m pretty sure that they would prefer me as a backup choice rather than a first choice.  If you have those kinds of reservations, why not just move on?  There’s something going on there that I don’t understand.  The longer it goes the more I begin to have serious doubts about the position.

As for the latter, they seem to lack some urgency.  They’ve told me that they are interested, they’ve asked to be apprised of any one else moving ahead of them on the process timeline (which I’ve done) but there doesn’t seem to be any movement to move the process.  It’s been two weeks since my phone interview with them.  They said that I was leading off the process and that there were other candidates.  OK, fine.  Even with Holy Week (this is a church position) chewing up a LOT of time I’m confused.  I’ve been on the other end of the process within the last year.  It’s very frustrating because this one could be one of my top two choices at the moment.  So I guess I’m lucky that I have multiple possibilities.

For the record I am excited about the possibilities of ALL FOUR positions at the top of the list.  I’m only just learning about this newest one so it may work its way up the list quickly.

But it’s all crazy making.

I’m ready for my next real job.

Whatever it turns out to be.

And I’ll keep you up to date on how that goes.

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Time to Get Real – Week of April 15

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Sometimes taking a break  is a good thing.

You stay where you are, not moving forward, not moving back.  You maintain, tread water, keep station.  Take a little break.

In terms of my weight loss I think of it as time for my body to make adjustments to the new situation.  I’m not sure if there’s science to back it up but my personal experience is that it seems to be helpful.  If I keep my body under constant stress (in this case dietary stress rather than the job hunting stress I mentioned before) it feels lik there is some systemic “push back”.  Letting things just be what they are for a short time helps curb that problem.  It’s also time for me to continue assimilating the new eating and exercise patterns in my life.  A time to reassess them as well.

For the second week in a row I have to say it wasn’t a great week.  The eating was very borderline.  The exercise was OK.  For the second straight week that hasn’t resulted in any negative news.  So the break appears to be working.

There’s a very dangerous eating holiday looming on the horizon.  Beyond that is a very important series of interviews that might just land me a new job.  So I need to keep my eyes on the prize.  I want to look and feel great for that weekend.  Time to get back to work:

My resolution:

Time to name the next goal.  I like them to be reasonable and achievable for my short term goals (the long term one is at the bottom here).  So we take it five pounds at a time.  185, I’m looking at you.

Official Weigh In Weight

189.8 pounds

Weight Change this week –  -0.0 pounds

Total Weight Loss To Date –  14.8 pounds

Goal Weight and Total to Lose – 175/30

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Life Among the Unemployed April 10

It sends a shiver down my spine every time I think about this.

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I have a face to face interview.  For a job that I could really get into.

And that may not be the only one.  There’s one other job that I think might be very interested as well.  Which would mean another face to face interview.  For another job that I could really get into.

We should all have such problems, I know.

I will admit to some serious nerves at this point.  I’m not overly worried about the nerves.  They are the same nerves I get before every performance in my life.  It’s not that I’m worried, because I’m never worried about being in front of an audience of any kind.  There’s no place I’m more comfortable, no place better suited to my gifts.  That may sound cocky.  I certainly don’t mean it that way.  If you’ve heard that public speaking is one of America’s greatest fears, I’m the other guy.  The one who loves it.  Nothing makes me happier.    So the nerves aren’t any kind of fear or anxiety.  It’s excitement.

The only problem is that the interview isn’t till after Easter.   Working in the church that doesn’t surprise me.  NO ONE is going to add any more complications to Holy Week.  Like bringing in some youth minister candidate for several days of meetings.

So we’ll keep a good thought, work hard at preparing myself and trying not to vibrate right out of my shoes.  Focus on other things.  Be ready for the curtain goes up.

I’m ready for my next real job.

Whatever it turns out to be.

And I’ll keep you up to date on how that goes.

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Time to Get Real – Week of April 8

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Back in the right direction.

It wasn’t a great week.  Not great on my eating.  Not bad on exercise.  The combination managed to get me turned back in the right direction.

It’s been a tough couple weeks.  Trying to find a new job brings new kinds of stress into my life.  Things go well, then things go not quite so well.  It’s tough and there are days when that affects my eating.  I know that’s not right but I know it will happen.  My goal at the moment isn’t to eliminate those altogether but to control them.  Have a bad meal instead of letting it blow up into a bad day.

The good news is that, at the moment, things are looking up.  So hopefully we can continue last week’s trend.

My resolution:

Time to name the next goal.  I like them to be reasonable and achievable for my short term goals (the long term one is at the bottom here).  So we take it five pounds at a time.  185, I’m looking at you.

Official Weigh In Weight

189.8 pounds

Weight Change this week –  -0.6 pounds

Total Weight Loss To Date –  14.8 pounds

Goal Weight and Total to Lose – 175/30

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Life Among the Unemployed April 3

Several phone interviews over the last week.  I thought all of them went well.  Looks like I have a least a couple follow up interviews too.  Yay.

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Having said that I’ve already been notified that I won’t a candidate for one of those positions as they move into their final phase.  Always disappointing and I always wonder why.  So I ask.  I know that it’s a potentially uncomfortable question for the folks at the other.

A: What do I have to lose at that point, they’ve already eliminated me,

B: It shows that I’m willing to learn from any mistakes,

C: I can learn things that may help down the road.

Sometimes you’re just not the right person.  That’s fine.  Sometimes you present something in a manner that just isn’t quite perfect.  Those are the ones I want to catch.  And sometimes you learn something unpleasant.  I found out that someone told one committee (NOT this latest one) what I believe to be an outright lie about me.  Sadly, they chose to believe it rather than follow up and discover the truth.  Which means I probably didn’t want to work there.

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My pet cat Zaphod (before you ask, yes) has become increasingly displeased with my phone interviews and Skype interviews.  She will jump on the desk and begin trying to distract me.  Last week she almost got tangled up in the curtains over my desk which would have resulted in her taking out pretty much everything ON my desk.  Silly cat.

And with much embarrassment I admit the following.  I’m sure no one is surprised to discover that I work from a couple of “stock” cover letters.  They are entirely my creation but I have standard ones for both youth ministry positions and communication positions.  They are crafted to emphasize the additional points I want in front of the decision makers and have places where I can “personalize” them for each job.

Yeah, about that…

You have to make sure you change all (make that ALL) the personalized portions as you send each version out.  Overlooking that tiny detail is how jobs in Maryland and Michigan got letters talking about how I looked forward to working with their teams in …Knoxville.

Oops.

Both places were very understanding about the mistake.  I will be triple checking them from now on.  Idiot.

So I’m ready for my next real job.

Whatever it turns out to be.

And I’ll keep you up to date on how that goes.

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Time to Get Real – Week of March 30

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Well crap.

One of my issues with eating is “emotional eating”.  In times of stress I eat, poorly and almost constantly.  Last week I had two big job interviews (both of which went very well I think) but it threw me into a bad pattern.  This week’s weigh in shows the price I paid.

The difference is that I know what happened, I know how to correct it and most importantly:

I KNOW IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.

I stumbled.  I’ll recover.  Move forward instead of staring backwards.

My resolution:

Time to name the next goal.  I like them to be reasonable and achievable for my short term goals (the long term one is at the bottom here).  So we take it five pounds at a time.  185, I’m looking at you.

Official Weigh In Weight

190.4 pounds

Weight Change this week – 2.0 pounds

Total Weight Loss To Date –  14.8 pounds

Goal Weight and Total to Lose – 175/30

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